I’m a survivor of narcissistic abuse. I know what it’s like to be in a toxic relationship with a parent and grow up feeling sad and confused. I believed them when they told me it was all my fault, and that they treated me badly because I didn’t deserve any better. For decades the relationship left me feeling worthless and unlovable, and a voice in my head told me I would always feel that way. And yet I still loved them and forgave them, and allowed them to stay in my life.
Then one day I learnt the truth. I learnt that my parent was a narcissist, and that was the day my life changed forever. I no longer feel confused by their behaviour, or blame myself for the way I was treated. And I have regained the self esteem and happiness that I should have been allowed to have when I was a child.
I went on a journey of recovery from narcissistic abuse and now I specialise in helping others do the same. I love to teach others the truth about their situation, and it brings me so much joy when I get to witness my clients go on the same journey and see the freedom it brings.
Hi I’m Mel
I am a fully qualified and insured counsellor with an online private practice in the UK.
I am a member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy.
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I’m here to help you if you’ve been affected by a toxic relationship with your parent.
In fact, I am so passionate about it that I decided to make it my niche/specialist area within my counselling work and you can read about that here.
Not many people realise that being in a toxic relationship can leave them with PTSD type symptoms, and often difficulties like anxiety, low self esteem and confusion can become a problem due to the relationship and being in regular contact with a toxic individual, even your parent.
I also like to blog about this subject too. My most recent blog was about why toxic parents use the silent treatment. Check out my blog on the silent treatment here.
For my counselling training I worked with clients with drug and alcohol addiction for two years.
I split my work schedule between seeing clients for my own private practice, and seeing clients for a charity for survivors of rape and sexual abuse.
In recent years I have come to learn a lot about neurodivergence, autism, and adhd and I am always happy to talk about this in session if it is something that is relevant for you.
I have also worked in elderly care providing private one to one dementia and end of life cancer care for many years, and I sometimes taught the many physical and mental health benefits of dance.